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Ask a Sexpert
Ask a Sexpert is designed to provide information about safe sex, HIV, sexually transmitted infections and other sexuality and sexual health issues. All questions are answered by a New Zealand AIDS Foundation staff member first, before other users can add their own response. Ask a Sexpert is not a substitute for advice from a health professional.
Hi there,
I want to try out dental dams (im a girl) and a lesbian.
I don't know where to get them and i was wondering if you could send me out a couple?
Thanks heaps 
From Laura
is masturbating good./
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 29 July 2010
Yes, in that it’s completely natural and many people do it regularly. If you think you are masturbating too often or that it causes you anxiety, talk to your doctor.
bum sex hurts is tht normal
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 27 May 2010
It shouldn’t hurt - sounds like you need more foreplay ( gentle touching and fingering) and more lube for at least 20 minutes before penetration.
can u get hiv from drinking cum
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 27 May 2010
Oral sex is considered to be low risk and getting semen in your mouth increases that risk to a degree. To minimise the risk make sure you don’t have any significant broken skin in your mouth before oral sex and of you get semen in your mouth swallow or spit quickly.
Are there any speacial masterbating techniques
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 27 May 2010
There are lots - all variations on a theme. Try everything you can think of and see what feels the best.
Im 20, professional guy, always have sex after midnight.. but i just cant seem to get it up before then, is there any way to re-trace my clock back?
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 18 December 2009
As you suggest, your body is now used to this time. We suggest you gradually try and make the time earlier and earlier. If you don’t masturbate for at least several days you’re more likely to jump to attention when you want to.
How safe is it to suck a penis? Thank you
View responses (2)The Sexpert, 2 November 2009
It’s considered low risk for HIV given that you don’t have any significant broken skin in your mouth. Getting cum in your mouth increases the risk, but it’s still less risky than unprotected anal or vaginal sex.
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I am 17 an go to boarding school, an I think I am gay! I get erections in the p.e changing rooms watching other guys get changed. I masturbate in the hostel toilets when other guys are around. I always have a temptation to seach naked guys on the Internet also. At the pool I always get boners looking at other dudes. What should I do?
View responses (2)The Sexpert, 2 November 2009
All the things you describe are completely normal for a young man and I’m certain there are many others experiencing similar feelings. If you begin to experiment make sure it feels right, don’t be pressured into something you’re not ready for and remember to use lube and condoms for anal sex.
It can really help to talk things through. Youthline (0800 376633) or OUTLine NZ (0800 OUTLINE) are both great for having a chat about your feelings in the safety that no one you know will find out - it really helps.
Can you contract HIV by swallowing semen?
View responses (2)The Sexpert, 12 October 2009
No. It isn’t the swallowing that involves risk of HIV transmission, but the condition of your mouth and how long the semen remains there. Significant broken skin in your mouth, gum disease and other STI’s increase the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex. If you get semen in your mouth spit or swallow (it’s doesn’t matter which) quickly. Oral sex without semen remains low risk .
For optimum sexual health and wellbeing for those of us who are sexually active, we recommend a full sexual health check every three to six months from your nearest sexual health clinic, or New Zealand AIDS Foundation Centre
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Sucking involves some risk but not many will suck a condom. What do you think of this dilemma?
View responses (1)The Sexpert, 12 October 2009
Very few men to use condoms for oral sex and given that oral sex is low risk for HIV transmission it’s far more important for condoms to be used for anal sex. For optimum sexual health and wellbeing, we recommend a full sexual health check every three to six months from your nearest sexual health clinic, or New Zealand AIDS Foundation Regional Centre.
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Questions about:
The Sexpert, 29 July 2010
You can buy dental dams on-line from Family Planning New Zealand
http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/WebShop/Other.aspx