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The awesome team at NZAF Health Services are here to answer any questions you might have about sex, sexuality, gender, relationships and everything in-between. Wherever you are in NZ, click here to book free counselling or a HIV Rapid Test, results in 20 minutes!
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Q. I love girls but right now I would not mind doing it with a guy just to see what it's like. Is this ok?
A.View AnswerIf having sex with guys is something you have given some thought to and you are confident and happy about that decision then what’s standing in your way? Just remember to keep safe and use a condom and lube every time. Remember condoms not only protect you from contracting HIV but sexually transmitted infections too. If this is your first time you may find the video on how to have anal sex useful. Click on the link below to watch.
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Q. What's a good way to have gay sex with my boyfriend for the first time? And what's a good item around a house to use instead of a dilldo?
A.View AnswerCheck out the “How to Have Anal Sex Video” below, it has heaps of great tips for awesome guy-on-guy sex. As for dildo substitutes – you could try something like a carrot – just be sure to put a condom over it and use plenty of lube.
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Q. I recently fucked a guy for the first time in the arse, and two days later he was bleeding from his arse is this normal?
A.View AnswerWas it his first time, or yours? Or both? A little pain (and sometimes a little blood) is not uncommon if it’s his first time getting fucked. But if it’s still bleeding two days later it’s a little concerning. He should go see the doctor and get it checked out – these things do happen. You will find staff at your local sexual health clinic who will be familiar with gay sex so you needn’t be afraid to talk to a professional. You can also look for a gay-friendly doctor/GP in the advertisement section of your local gay magazine or newspaper.
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Q. I am bi and I like this guy who is also bi but I don’t know if he likes me. What should I do?
A.View AnswerDo you know him socially? Like is he in your group of friends? If so, perhaps have a mutual friend ask him what he thinks of you. Or, if you don’t know him that well try hanging out with him, invite him to do something with you and your mates, you’ll soon get a hunch as to whether he’s into you or not.
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Q. Every time I watch porn I get super horny and get in the mood to bottom. But when I'm with my partner we do foreplay before sex and I'm horny during that. But as soon as he pushes his dick inside me all that goes away. I try to wank but my dick doesn't stay hard. Every time we have sex he cums but I don't and I sense he's getting upset about it. I love dick but the pain just ruins everything. What should I do?
A.View AnswerIf you are new to being a bottom it can feel uncomfortable and a little painful. Be patient, in time your body should adapt, making it more enjoyable. You might consider investing in a dildo that you can use on your own to become familiar with the sensation of getting fucked.
If this is causing tension in your relationship, we suggest making an appointment for free relationship counselling with our friends and NZAF. NZAF staff are qualified professionals who are experienced in issues of sex and sexuality. Click below for more information.
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Q. I just stared having sex with this guy and I must say every time we do it hurts a lot. But I want to make sure he is happy and I just want to know what I can do to ease the pain?
A.View AnswerAnal sex can be very painful especially if you are just starting out. There are things you can do that can help ease the pain. Foreplay is a good way to help you relax and prepare your hole. Ask your partner to finger your hole with plenty of lube, starting first with one finger and easing your way up to three. It is important you tell your partner if you need him to stop, or go slow. You could also use dildos to help loosen you up. When you are ready for his cock, try sitting on top. This allows you to be in control and decide how fast or how deep you want to go. Also watch our anal sex video (link below) – it has good tips on how to make it enjoyable and safe.
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Q. I'm young and I think I'm gay. I have these thoughts about the boys in my school. And sometimes I get hard in front of them and have to ask to go to the bathroom and jack off. I wonder about myself sometimes if I'm normal or not. Also I want to buy condoms but everyone knows me and it would be embarrassing. Is there any way I can get condoms without anyone knowing about it?
A.View AnswerIf you’re feeling attracted to other guys then you are probably gay or bisexual. If you feel like you’d like to talk to someone about it, you can chat to the team at Rainbow Youth (link below). As for having sex, we’re not here to judge, but we will point out that having sex with someone under the age of 16 is against the law. Condoms can be ordered from our website by clicking on the link below. They are delivered in a plain, unmarked envelope.
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Q. I recently lost my virginity and I'm finding that sex hurts to the point of tears. I love my bf, and we're both clean, but it's beginning to make me not want to have sex. Advice?
A.View AnswerWhat hurts exactly? We suggest visiting your local sexual health clinic for a free checkup. Pain could be caused by an STI, or it could be something else. Whatever it is, you should see a professional so you can have it addressed and start to enjoy sex.
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Q. I have been seeing someone for a while now, and we have had sex a few times, but I haven't cum yet. I have bottomed every time, and for some reason I don't seem to enjoy sex. Is this normal? All I want to do is to be able to enjoy sex. I find him very attractive, and have no problem wanking by myself, but when with him I seem to take a very long time to get off, I get close to cumming then nothing happens.
A.View AnswerIt could just be that you are not a bottom. It’s not for everyone. Or it could be that he needs to pay more attention to you. Some guys are terrible at pleasuring a bottom. If you’re not enjoying it then talk to him and ask him to pay more attention to the things that you enjoy. Maybe you’d prefer if he wanks your cock while he’s fucking you, maybe you want him to suck you off, or maybe you want him to make sure you cum before he does. Find out what you enjoy and ask him to pay more attention to you.
If you want support and a sounding board for your experiences a counsellor would be a good idea. There is free counselling through the NZAF (check out the link below) or you can find a gay friendly one on your own. Be sure to check with them when booking an appointment about their ability to support you as a gay man.
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Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we have a very active sex life. We just have one problem and that is that he struggles to bottom. In the 3 years I have penetrated him twice! When I do penetrate him, he loves it but just to get him comfortable and relaxed is the problem. When I finger him he enjoys the pleasure but I can`t put two or 3 fingers in then it is uncomfortable and too sensitive for him. What can we do?
A.View AnswerIt’s just a matter of practise, practise, and more practise. You’re doing the right thing – start with a finger, then maybe try rimming him for a while until he’s super relaxed and horny. Then try for a second finger or more. If he doesn’t bottom much then he’s going to need a bit of extra time to relax and get into it each time you do it.
Some guys like to use poppers (butyl or amyl nitrate) to relax their arse when they’re fucking. Like all drugs, poppers can alter your judgement and give you a false sense of reality so if you’re going to try them, use caution. Make sure you don’t mix poppers with Viagra because together they’re extremely dangerous. Any drugs and alcohol need to be used with extreme caution as some of the side effects of mixing drugs and sex can be dangerous.
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Q. How do you suck dick if you're a first timer?
A.View AnswerTo give a basic blowjob all you need to do is lock your lips at the base of his cock and suction them up and down the bottom ¾ of his shaft at a quick, steady pace while pressing your flattened tongue against the underside of his dick. Make sure you are applying pressure with both your lips and tongue.
Keeping your tongue against his cock at all times is crucial to making it feel good. Try to keep your tongue moving around to maximise his pleasure. It can help to keep from gagging to hold his cock steady at the base and bring your lips down to meet your fingers. You can do this very slowly for a more intense feeling, but make sure you move at a steady rhythm. Some guys like it faster or slower; you may have to ask, or more likely, he’ll tell you.
This technique is for a basic blowjob that is likely to bring him to orgasm. As you get more experience you can add your own flair and style to your blowjob.
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Q. I’m 15 and bi. I have a girlfriend but had boyfriends previously. All of my boyfriends had penises a lot larger than me. I’m scared that their penises will shred my anus. How can I make it so it won’t hurt as much and they can at least enter?
A.View AnswerOne way to begin is to experiment alone. Here’s a suggestion: after a shower or bath explore your body. When you’re wanking touch the area between your legs (behind your balls) and arse cheeks. Put lots of lube on your fingers and begin to feel the outside of your arse hole. Take your time. If it feels good, slowly slide a finger in. If your anus suddenly tightens, don’t be alarmed. It’s just an automatic response by a muscle called the sphincter.
The way to work around this is to penetrate the opening slowly with your well-lubed finger and then let the sphincter tighten. As soon as it tightens, pull your finger out again. Wait 30 seconds and then begin to finger your arse again – this time you’ll find it a lot easier.
If you liked a finger inside you, try something bigger – two or even three fingers, or maybe a dildo (start out small). Remember when you’re playing with your arse not to push objects all the way in – it can be extremely difficult to get them out again!
If you’ve done some exploring and think that you’d like to give anal sex a try, check out the video and other resources below.
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Q. I'm bisexual and I’m new at this. I just fucked a guy yesterday but I couldn't cum. I want to make it more pleasurable for me next time. I know I have prior problems like a red, swollen head. Have you got any advice?
A.View AnswerFirst, you should get your head looked at. It sounds like it could be an STI or some sort of dermatological issue. We recommend that you arrange an appointment with a GP or a Free Sexual Health Clinic (see links below).
Second, once your head is healed, if you’re still not finding sex pleasurable you might like to check out our “how to have anal sex video” that has some great tips for those who are new to anal sex.
Third, it’s not unusual to take a while to cum. It can take a bit of trial and error to find out what makes you cum. Be prepared to experiment… some guys find First, you should get your head looked at. It sounds like it could be an STI or some sort of dermatological issue. We recommend that you arrange an appointment with a GP or a Free Sexual Health Clinic (see links below).
Second, once your head is healed, if you’re still not finding sex pleasurable you might like to check out our “how to have anal sex video” that has some great tips for those who are new to anal sex.
Third, it’s not unusual to take a while to cum. It can take a bit of trial and error to find out what makes you cum. Be prepared to experiment… some guys find the only way to cum is to wank after anal sex, others like a bit of nipple play or ass play when they’re trying to cum. Try and find a partner is prepared to experiment with you and try a few things out.
the only way to cum is to wank after anal sex, others like a bit of nipple play or ass play when they’re trying to cum. Try and find a partner is prepared to experiment with you and try a few things out. -
Q. Is it normal during puberty to get a hard-on when seeing guys with abs or that are hunky? And is it normal to want to see other people’s dicks and want to suck them?
A.View AnswerIf you’re feeling attracted to other guys then you are probably gay or bisexual. There is no ‘normal’ age to come to terms with your sexuality - some guys realise it in their teens and others much later in life. If you feel like you’d like to talk to someone about it, you can chat to the team at OutlineNZ (0800 OutlineNZ), or if you’re under 28 you can contact Rainbow Youth (link below). As for having sex, we’re not here to judge, but we will point out that having sex with someone under the age of 16 is against the law. We suggest giving the great team at YOUTHline a call on 0800 37 66 33 to talk it out first.
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Q. I'm young and I'm not openly gay so when I have sex with my neighbour I don’t have any condoms because I’m young we don't use one. Is it bad to not use condoms? My neighbour likes being top and I like being top, but he gets his way because when I'm on bottom it does not hurt because he have a normal size penis but I hit puberty early and I have a 7 incher. How do I get my neighbour to let me be top without hurting him? Lastly, what are some household objects that cause be used for lube?
A.View AnswerFirstly, we’re not here to judge, but we will point out that having sex with someone under the age of 16 is against the law in New Zealand. If you are under 16, before you do anything we suggest giving the great team at YOUTHline a call on 0800 37 66 33 to talk it out first.
Condoms are important because the inside of your arse has a lining that’s like a sponge. When you use a condom, cum that carries HIV or an STI can’t be absorbed into that lining and your body. You can’t assume your neighbour doesn’t have HIV just because you think “He’d tell me first” or “He’s so hot! – he can’t have HIV.” There are guys who have HIV but don’t know it yet. You can’t tell by looking at someone, you can’t tell by age or how hot his body is; guys can carry HIV for years with no knowledge or symptoms. Safe sex is easy, and the best way to keep yourself free from HIV is to use a condom and water-based lube every time you fuck. You can order free condoms and lube to be delivered to your home in a discreet, unmarked envelope by clicking on the link below. You can also get them from your local sexual health clinic.
As for being top vs. bottom, don’t feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do. It’s your ass, your rules. You might consider checking out our ‘first timers’ information by clicking on the link below. It has some great tips. If you and your neighbour are over 16, you can both watch our “How To Have Anal Sex” video (also below) with great tips for how to be a top or bottom. The information in this video might make your neighbour more comfortable with the idea to try being a bottom.
As for household objects that could be used for lube… well if you’re using condoms (which you really should) then you will need water-based or silicone-based lube to prevent the condom from breaking and there aren’t any household objects that could substitute. Free condoms and lube in the mail is the best option.
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Q. I'm 18 and just got out of a relationship with my girlfriend of 1 year. The breakup had nothing to do with my sexuality. I've always, however, had this curiosity about having sex with a guy. My girlfriend was very religious, and we actually never had sex together. I recently signed up on this dating website, and started getting messages. This one guy, roughly my age, a year older, messaged me about my profile. I had just written on there about my curiosity and how I wanted to experiment. He sent me pictures and a link to his Facebook profile. He seems to respect me taking my time and being cautious; I haven’t given him my real name, email address, Facebook link, etc. The guy seems legit, and just a good bloke. Seems like maybe the right one for my first time. I plan on meeting in public first, to grab a drink. And after a chat, if I feel comfortable, just grab some more drinks to go, and take it all to a hotel room in town. I think I'm playing safe, and doing the right thing. Any advice for me as a first timer with all of this? I'm nervous, but he assures me no pressure. Seems trustworthy? I'm just looking for a second head to bounce some thoughts of here.
A.View AnswerYou’re right. It’s a good thing to set up the first meeting away from your home so if he’s a creep he won’t know where you live. A cafe or bar is a good idea for that first meeting. If you’re nervous, you might let a mate know what you’re doing and leave some contact details.
Don’t be heartbroken if you arrange everything online and then he doesn’t show up. Yes, he might be a cock-teasing prick, or he might have had something unavoidable come up. But it’s still just a fuck with a stranger, not the last chance in your life to find true love and happiness.
Some guys may pressure you for unsafe sex. No matter how hot he is, no matter how charming, or how much fun, you need to insist on using condoms and lube. If he fights it, walk away. There are plenty more guys online who will do the right thing and help you look after yourself and protect you from HIV.
Lastly, there’s nothing wrong with meeting up for a drink or two, but we suggest you don’t get too drunk. Your first time with another guy can be a big deal and you want to be able to remember it. Also, when you’re drunk you might not have all your wits about you, and someone could take the opportunity to try fucking you without a condom. It’s important that you stay in control and know what you’re doing to protect yourself.
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Q. I am 16 and I want to know what gay sex feels like. It would be my first time and I’m just very curious. I want to know if it hurts or what it feels like and what I can do to see what it feels like before having it with someone.
A.View AnswerSo most gay guys are into anal sex. There are other types of sex you can have such as oral sex, mutual masturbation and frottage but for the purposes of answering your question we’ll assume you’re talking about anal sex.
Most guys who are into anal sex like to fuck and be fucked. Others prefer one role or another – insertive or receptive: top or bottom; dominant and submissive.
If you’re not sure that your arse is something that you want to explore sexually, one way to begin is to experiment alone. Here’s a suggestion: after a shower or bath explore your body. When you’re wanking touch the area between your legs (behind your balls) and arse cheeks. Put lots of lube on your fingers and begin to feel the outside of your arse hole. Take your time. If it feels good, slowly slide a finger in. If your anus suddenly tightens, don’t be alarmed. It’s just an automatic response by a muscle called the sphincter.
The way to work around this is to penetrate the opening slowly with your well-lubed finger and then let the sphincter tighten. As soon as it tightens, pull your finger out again. Wait 30 seconds and then begin to finger your arse again – this time you’ll find it a lot easier.
If you liked a finger inside you, try something bigger – two or even three fingers, or maybe a dildo (start out small). Remember when you’re playing with your arse not to push objects all the way in – it can be extremely difficult to get them out again!
Also it’s important not to share sex toys (dildos, vibrators). If you enjoy finger-fucking that doesn’t mean that you have to fuck or start using toys. Every one of us has his own limits – there’s no ‘natural progression’ from one step to the next. Find your limits safely, on your own or with someone you trust completely.
If you’ve done some exploring and think that you’d like to give anal sex a try, check out the video and other resources below.
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Q. I am terribly confused about an action I should take, or not, based a lot on sexual orientation. I have identified with being straight since age 13, because it was ‘cool’; yeah well that was high school. I'm now 25 and for the longest time I still identified as being straight, as I am physically attracted to women, but in saying that I have always been too shy to ask anyone out, hence; never had a girlfriend. Here is what has me confused: I am still attracted to women but what really turns me on is receiving anal stimulation, from dildos and various other objects. This has been the case since I was 21 and shortly after that I started having sexual fantasies about men, this really confused me as I still get fantasies about men, with quite a bit more than just anal or oral stimulation and I only feel physically attracted to women. I feel conflicted, and yet desperate at the same time to fulfil the fantasies I have held. I don’t know what I should do. I often feel so desperate for contact with anyone I watch straight porn but sometimes wish it was gay porn and yet desperate to stop all together. The last thing is I am incredibly shy talking about sex or relationships if it concerns me, so I end up being reserved talking to no one about such issues and am left with asking on here. I'm confused about my sexual orientation, why I'm having such thoughts, even though I don’t have a problem with the thoughts but how do I deal with them. Do I try and find someone or a group to fulfil my fantasies, what do I do about being so shy and nervous?
A.View AnswerDear Shy and Confused,
It sounds like there are several things you are questioning; sexual orientation, sexual attraction, how and whether to act on fantasies and dealing with shyness. A man can like anal play, stimulation and penetration and still be attracted to women. Also fantasies are just that and one can choose to act on them or keep them as fantasies. Acting on your fantasies about men requires putting yourself in a situation where you will have to speak with them and if the shyness is preventing you from talking with them it may be best to deal that first.
Whether you determine your sexual identity to be gay, bisexual or straight it is a process for you and there is free counselling available through our friends at NZAF (check out the link below) or you could find a private paid counsellor to work through these issues with. If you choose a private counsellor we recommend interviewing them to make sure they are gay friendly and sex positive. Additionally, a counsellor can help you work through the shyness issues and to clarify exactly what you need and want. If you are uncomfortable talking with a counsellor there is Outline (another link below) with volunteers who can provide a brief listening ear and suggestions for groups where you would be comfortable exploring your questions.
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Q. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and we are planning on having sex soon. I have been in other relationships but nothing really serious happened and I know I’m his first relationship. Should we get checked for STIs/STDs before we have sex? Can we even catch an STI/STD since we are both virgins?
A.View AnswerIt depends what you mean by “nothing really serious”. If you have had oral sex there is a chance of contracting certain STIs/STDs although the risk is still relatively low compared to other activities such as unprotected anal sex.
You probably don’t need to get tested. Just make sure you use condoms and water-based lube every time you have sex. It’s important to use condoms and lube, even if you’re in a relationship, because approximately half of all HIV infections among gay and bisexual men in NZ occur within relationships. That is, one partner unwittingly passes HIV onto the other partner without even realising they had it. So to protect yourself and your boyfriend you should get into the habit of using condoms and lube from your first time.
It may be a difficult conversation to have with your boyfriend, but it’s an important one to have if you want to protect each other. It might go something like this:
“Because you care for me I know that it would be really hard to tell me you’d fucked someone else. And it would be hard for me to tell you if I did the same. Since nothing’s as important as caring for each other, let’s use condoms.”
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Q. Can you get HIV if your partner doesn’t have it? Say two guys are going to have sex and both are virgins. Can they still get HIV from having sex unprotected?
A.View AnswerIf you are both virgins then the chances of either of you having HIV are very low, unless you’ve been in contact with infected blood at some point. So your risk of infecting one another is low. But if you start having sex without condoms, how will you keep safe over time?
Without being pessimistic, you don’t know for sure that he is a virgin despite what he tells you. Also, if you continue a sexual relationship with this guy how do you know what else he is up to? Monogamy is not something you count on as a prevention method and we certainly wouldn’t recommend anyone do so. The reality is that approximately half of all HIV infections among gay and bisexual men in NZ occur within relationships. That is, one partner unwittingly passes HIV onto the other partner without even realising they had it.
It may be a difficult conversation to have with your partner, but it’s an important one to have if you want to protect each other. It might go something like this:
“Because you care for me I know that it would be really hard to tell me you’d fucked someone else, that you’d had unprotected sex, and to be honest about everything else you might get up to. Just like it would be hard for me to tell you if I did any of those things. Since nothing’s as important as caring for each other, let’s use condoms.”
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Q. I am 56 and for the first time I am really keen to have sex with another guy. Am I weird at this late stage in life and if ok where can I safely meet another guy without being exposed to weird people? Find I am dressing trying to appeal to guys too not just girls. Went to a nude beach and got freeked - it was something out of another planet. Strange guys running around trying to hit on first timers. Where to from here? Any advice would be welcome. Thanks.
A.View AnswerThe first time for anyone regardless of your age can be new and scary. There are many ways in which guys can meet or hook up and some of them can be viewed as weird by those who do not know/understand the way things work.
Obviously you have tried meeting at a nude beach, we call these public places “beats”. Beats are used by men who want a quick and casual hook up, usually not leading to any conversations, just sex.
There are other places you could meet people, the internet is a good discreet place to meet men, you can specify what you are looking for and screen potential men that you would like to meet. NZDating and Manhunt have a good selection of men to choose from, as do mobile apps such as Grindr and Scruff.
If the internet is not for you, another good place to meet men is sex on site venues, the men who frequent these places are looking for sex but there are places in the venues for you to have coffee and a chat with someone and there is no obligation to have sex. Click on the link below for locations of sex on site venues.
If you do decide to have sex with a man there are some things you need to know – learn all about it by clicking on the ‘First Timers’ link below.
We also have condom packing on nights in all our major centres ( Auckland, Wellington, Christchurch) where you can meet men in a safe non-sex environment, where you can talk and mingle with other guys. You can find out more by clicking on the link below.
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Q. Recently, I've been extremely worried. I engage in sex for the first time (Im 18) with a guy who's 19 and we had unprotected oral sex with each other (both receptive and insertive oral sex) Im really afraid that I have contracted HIV from him. It hasn't helped either that I have spent literally hours on Google looking up information on HIV from oral sex and this has only further fuelled my anxiety. It has gotten to the stage where Im feeling a bit suicidal. He has assured me that he's negative saying he tested negative 2 weeks ago and I have kept on asking him to the point that he's said I'm overreacting, but I cant trust him as he said he has multiple sex partners in the past. I know that there's a very small chance (that I could have contracted the virus via oral sex with him (about 1 in 10000 according to the CDC) assuming that he was even HIV+ hence why I'm worried cos Im afraid I could have taken that 1 in 10000 chance. My question is what is the likelihood that I could have contracted HIV from him and will a test at 6 weeks/ 3 months / 6 months be fully conclusive for the low risk activity that I engaged in? And during the time that he gave me a blowjob, could his saliva have entered the tip of my penis and cause me to contract HIV? Also when I gave him a blowjob (he's uncircumcised) could just sucking him also cause me to contract the virus. One thing to note is that we did not ejaculated into each other's mouth and also engaged in frottaging. I am so very worried and scared of the unknown !! :( Thank you very much!
A.View AnswerAs you have read online, the risk of contracting HIV from oral sex is very very low. To give you some peace of mind, you can get tested now and then get tested again in a few months when the window period has closed. We are concerned about your levels of anxiety - a blowjob is supposed to be fun and really shouldn’t cause you this much worry. We suggest you contact our friends at NZAF, they can arrange a FASTest for you (a quick HIV test and you’ll have the results in 20 min) and they have counselors who can help you work through your anxiety. They are very professional and care about your wellbeing. Call them on 0800 80 2437.
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Q. I recently started having sex but I don't have a partner to have sex with and I'm only 14 and dating sites don't take that age. What do I do?
A.View AnswerWe know that youth are engaging in all sorts of sexual behaviour at all sorts of ages. We’re not here to judge, but we will point out that having sex with someone under the age of 16 is against the law. We suggest giving the great team at YOUTHline a call on 0800 37 66 33 to talk it out. As for where to meet other people - dating sites are not a safe way for someone your age to meet someone. If you are gay or bisexual we suggest joining a group with Rainbow Youth or another local gay youth group where you can meet like-minded young people.
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Q. I just turned 18 and my boyfriend has been asking for anal sex. I am open to the idea, but really worried about being embarrassed by any smells he might smell or him getting any gross stuff on his penis. What can I do to make sure my ass is clean and free from crap when he tries? He's also talked about fingering my asshole, but I don't want his fingers to stink afterwards. What shall I do?
A.View AnswerYou can douche. Douching is the process of cleaning out your rectum with water. Click on the link below for a great guide on how to douche.
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Q. I am 17 and from a very small town far away from others. I only just recently met other gay kids around my age but I have found out that out of them all I'm the only one that still has my virginity and nearly all of them are younger than me. I talked to someone that facilitates a group for gay youth and he himself told me I was weird for not losing my virginity yet. He seemed surprised. Am I weird? Because I really feel like it.
A.View AnswerNo, you’re not weird. Many guys lose their virginity at a much later age than 17. There really is no such thing as a normal age to lose your virginity. To be honest, some guys talk shit when they talk about losing their virginity so you’re not doing yourself any favours by comparing yourself to them. Do what feels right for you, don’t worry about what others tell you, and don’t feel pressured into doing something just because you think everyone else is doing it. You only lose your virginity once and the memory of it will stick with your forever so you better make sure it’s on your terms and it’s what you want to do.