Am I Normal?
Q. Why do I cum so quickly? Whenever I get a hand-job or have sex I cum very fast. I am 25 years old. Please help me.
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual issues that men face, so you are not alone. In fact, it can affect up to 30% of men. There are a lot of different factors that can cause you to cum quickly such as anxiety, repetitive learned behaviours, excessive arousal or muscular tension. Figuring out which factor or factors are affecting you is key to helping overcome it. There is a great article below that has tips for overcoming each of these issues:
Condoms
Q. How many days does it take to get the free condom and lube delivered to my house? Im planning to do that someday.
We send the free condoms and lube once a fortnight so it depends on when you order. Allow up to 10 working days. Order your free condoms and lube by clicking on the link below:
First Timers
Q. Can having anal sex damage you internally? I think I read it somewhere. Like, if his cock goes in pretty far, can it do damage inside you? Like to your organs and stuff?
It is somewhat rare to get internal damage from anal sex if you do it correctly. When having anal sex you need to use a good water-based lube (and condoms, of course) and start slow to not cause damage to the anal sphincter. Once your ass is relaxed and you start fucking there is unlikely to be any issue. However, if the top is too rough or his cock is incredibly large there is the possibility of some bleeding or other damage. There is no need to worry if you both know what you are doing. Click on the link below to watch our video on how to have anal sex - it has great tips on how to do it if you are a top or a bottom:
Risky Business
Q. I’m male and I got drunk and had unprotected sex for almost 10 min. I did not cum because after I realised what I was doing I stopped. Then I went to pee because I heard it's better and washed my penis (I'm circumcised). So what are the chances of catching HIV?
Regardless of the fact that you washed your penis and had a pee afterwards, having unprotected anal sex does put you at greater risk of contracting HIV. The best thing to do is contact our friends at NZAF and arrange a FASTest - a free HIV test that takes less than 20 minutes. You can call them on 0800 80 2437. And feel free to order some free condom and lube packs to keep in your pocket - that way you can have worry-free hot sex next time. Just click on the link below
STI's & HIV
Q. I’m male and I got drunk and had unprotected sex for almost 10 min. I did not cum because after I realised what I was doing I stopped. Then I went to pee because I heard it's better and washed my penis (I'm circumcised). So what are the chances of catching HIV?
Regardless of the fact that you washed your penis and had a pee afterwards, having unprotected anal sex does put you at greater risk of contracting HIV. The best thing to do is contact our friends at NZAF and arrange a FASTest - a free HIV test that takes less than 20 minutes. You can call them on 0800 80 2437. And feel free to order some free condom and lube packs to keep in your pocket - that way you can have worry-free hot sex next time. Just click on the link below
Coming Out
Q. I'm gay and I'm too scared to let my friends know. Please help me.
Telling your friends you are gay can be difficult but at the end of the day if they are true friends they will accept you for whoever you are. It might be helpful to talk to someone else first - someone who has been there before and understands what it feels like. You can chat to the team at OutlineNZ (0800 OutlineNZ), or if you’re under 28 you can contact Rainbow Youth.
Hooking Up
Q. I have met a new man and he is HIV positive. I'm HIV negative. If I wear a condom to have anal sex with him is it safe for me?
Condoms and water based lube, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV. If you have any questions about putting on a condom feel free to check out this video: http://www.getiton.co.nz/condoms-lube/how-to-put-on-a-condom/
Dicks, Balls & Arses
Q. Why do I cum so quickly? Whenever I get a hand-job or have sex I cum very fast. I am 25 years old. Please help me.
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual issues that men face, so you are not alone. In fact, it can affect up to 30% of men. There are a lot of different factors that can cause you to cum quickly such as anxiety, repetitive learned behaviours, excessive arousal or muscular tension. Figuring out which factor or factors are affecting you is key to helping overcome it. There is a great article below that has tips for overcoming each of these issues:
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