What if he says we don’t need to use condoms?

If you're even remotely sexually active, chances are sooner or later you'll meet up with someone who will put the hard word on you and want to bareback. And it can be very tempting. It pushes all sorts of buttons - it can feel a bit dirty and risky, it can uncover issues of trust and love (If you really trust me...) or maybe you're both just pretty wasted and he is pushing for it.

Don't do it.

It's true - you most likely aren't going to get HIV every time you fuck without a condom. But if you get in the habit of fucking without rubber, your chances of getting infected skyrocket.

Not many guys can look back and say "That is the time I got infected, that night with that guy at that place." It's a bit like trying to figure out which cigarette gave you cancer. And like smokes and cancer, it's not so much which cig causes it; it's the habit of smoking, or in our case, the habit of fucking bare.

Some guys will use all sorts of lines on you to try and get you to do it. Is it really worth it though? If you're getting fucked, I'd put money on it that you really can't tell the difference. If you're doing the fucking, it might slow you down a bit, but isn't that better than getting or giving HIV?

Even if he pulls out a test result and shows that he tested HIV negative, it is no guarantee he still is. And if he's so keen on having unsafe sex with you, think of everyone else he has tried the same line on (and maybe succeeded with). If he's that keen on fucking all over town without rubber, then the chances that he has some other STI, let alone HIV, go up pretty fast.

There is absolutely no doubt, life without HIV is much better than life with it. Even with all the medical changes and treatments, it still sucks big time to live with HIV, you really don't want it. And the best way to stay free of it is to make condoms an automatic part of your sex-life. Always by the bed, always in your bag, keep them somewhere near at hand, and use them.

And if he really pushes and insists on it, be prepared to stand your ground and walk away if you need to. If he values you as more than a piece of meat, he'll want what's best for you and listen to you. No matter how hot he is, your health is worth more, and there are plenty more guys out there who you can have fantastic sex with and stay safe.

Click here for the top 10 lines we hear from guys wanting unsafe sex, and some brilliant comebacks.